To truly come home to ourselves, we need to have a safe place to come home to. We do that by getting to know ourselves, listening for and learning the truth of who we are, what we believe, what we need, and then trusting that truth.
It can be the most challenging journey for us as women. Our stories have been narrated for us by others who have had their own view of who we are and how we should be in the world. It can take a lifetime to unravel those voices that play inside our minds, to turn off their tracks and start to play our own.
For many of us as women that voice is that of our mother, but it could also be a father, grandparent, sibling or another dominant person from our childhood or formative years. Learning to discern between that voice and our own is part of the work, of us being able, finally, to claim our sovereignty.
Tune in to your true voice. When you are in your most quiet spaces, perhaps during meditation, or after prayer, know what your own voice sounds like. Listen for your truths, the ones that linger on the surface of who you are, and the ones that rest deep down within your soul.
What do you believe? Write it down. What do you feel about situations, people, your work, relationships, your place in the world? Sit with this truth. Before you ask what someone else thinks, practice asking yourself the question first: what do I think and feel about this? Ground yourself in your knowing. It doesn’t mean you never care what others think, only that your truth matters first and foremost.
You are your home and your place of belonging. You are your safe place. Get to know who you are there. Know your truths. All of them. Feel the sense of beingness and belonging that comes when you can trust yourself fully, and know that you will always be safe within yourself.